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Let Go and Thrive!

For the next few months, I will choose cards from the African American Tarot deck as a prompt for my blog posts. Let’s see what spiritual insight I come up with!

Queen of Pentacles + 5 of Swords + Knave of Chalices

In life, we all experience challenges. There’s no denying it. Contention, discord, fight are all part of the human experience. Yet, there are times when we (you & I) contribute to our own discord.

Emotional immaturity is often at the forefront of this imbalance. The way we perceive and think about experiences is also a catalyst for contention. Examine your emotional processes. Study your own thinking. When you do this, you begin to hone your powers of manifestation. Instead of being a passive participant in life, you become an active participant, a co-creator with the most high.

You begin to call in abundance, resourcefulness, and joy. Let go of that which no longer serves you and your evolution.

Let go and thrive.


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Shit Happens

For the next few months, I will choose a card from the African American Tarot deck as a prompt for my blog posts. Let’s see what spiritual insight I come up with!

9 of Swords + The Hierophant

We all have those days. Days when we struggle to get out of bed. Days when unhappiness settles in as if it's a companion. It happens. Depression happens. Sadness happens. Disappointment happens. This is life. We would not know what peace is without the occasional depressive state.

Is this one of those days for you? Is this one of those weeks? Are traumatic memories coming up for review? Welcome to humanity. Whether people show it or not we all have our moments, days, weeks, and months of despair. Today’s message says the way to pull yourself out of this funk is to look towards the heavens. You are being encouraged to adopt or create a formal spiritual practice that will pull your awareness away from depressing thoughts. If Islam resonates with your spirit pursue it. Whether it’s Ifa, Judaism, Hinduism pursue it. If your spirit is calling you to spend more time in meditation, do so. Adopting a spiritual practice and creating rituals will support your healing. Get to it!


 

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Get Free

For the next few months, I will choose a card from the African American Tarot deck as a prompt for my blog posts. Let’s see what spiritual insight I come up with!

King of Chalices + 6 of Wands

When’s the last time you were emotionally balanced? When’s the last time you were at peace? Think about it. I’ll wait. Has it been a while? You are not alone. 13% of Americans are on antidepressants. Many who are not on psychiatric meds are using a number of other means to dull symptoms. How do we stop the madness? How do we stop the inner turmoil?

Rising above emotion is the key.  Many of us carry patterns in our emotional responses. We’ve been responding to the same experiences with the same thinking which leads to the same tired emotions. Some time ago I began to study my mind. I wanted to know why I felt the way I did. What I recognized almost instantly is that my negative, angry thinking would cause negative emotion. It was an Aha! moment for me. If I could avoid perpetuating negative, heavy thinking I could avoid the emotion that would inevitably follow. This my friends is emotional maturity. When a thought enters my field of consciousness I can say “No” and move on. If a thought continues to pop up I will not fight it because doing so is futile. I will just say “No” and divert my attention elsewhere. It takes practice. It takes awareness. The result of saying “No” to the same old tired thoughts/emotions is freedom. Get free.

 

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The Depression Cure?!?

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This post was originally published in 2013. The words are still true today.

Gifts, family gatherings, celebrations. The holidays can be filled with such joy but they can also be filled with great sadness and depression. 

Its arrival is never prefaced with an announcement. It barges in uninvited and unexpected. And once settled it makes no attempts to move on. It depletes your strength and makes you feel as if death is the only release. It’s depression.

Some years ago as I sat across from my therapist I asked: “Are there tests that can prove I have a hormonal imbalance?” His response was “No”. I went on to question how doctors could say hormonal imbalance was the cause of depression if they had no proof. At the time I was coming out of a period of severe depression. My treatment plan was a combination of anti-depressants and therapy. The anti-depressants did not cure my ailment. Instead, they numbed me. My usual feelings of grief became buried under a pile of indifference. Therapy was a great way for me to gain insight into myself and my thought patterns. Yet, this also provided no cure.

Fast forward to today. I no longer share my innermost thoughts with a therapist nor do I take brain-altering medication. But more importantly, I am no longer plagued by depression. I experience good days and bad, pleasant and unpleasant experiences. I too become sad, angry and mourn loss. Yet I refuse to let these passing emotions linger.

I remember the darkness that surrounded me at every turn. The tears and the anguish I lived with daily are lodged in my memory. Pain was my constant companion. However, a chemical imbalance wasn’t to blame for my state of mind. My emotional responses to compulsive negative thoughts were to blame, i.e. I was to blame.

After years of suffering from this illness, I now see the truth. After years of watching my triggers, thoughts, and emotional reactions it has become clear. There is nothing wrong with my brain. It is perfect in its composition. There is something wrong with the way I think. As I began to watch my thoughts more closely I noticed that certain thoughts led to negative emotional responses. And eventually, all these negative emotional responses took on a life of their own. I was depressed because I indulged in compulsive repetition of negative thoughts which in turn fostered negative emotions.

If I constantly replay the time I was betrayed by a lover the negative emotions associated with that memory replay as well. My life has been no cake walk. As a result, pessimism became my way of life. Past life events left me feeling victimized and certain that history was doomed to repeat itself. So each day I walked in fear of being hurt by people. My thoughts were habitually rooted in residual pain and disappointment. If you suffer from depression I implore you to watch your thoughts and your emotional responses to those thoughts very closely. You will most likely find a pattern of negative emotional responses resulting from unpleasant compulsive thoughts.

Each day as those thoughts enter my psyche I am forced to choose what my emotional response will be. I can choose not to go down the road which leads to depression, anger, sadness, and pain. I can choose to stop a thought that is destructive, replacing it with one that is constructive. And so can you. The mind is my tool, its tendency towards compulsion will no longer control me. I control it and I banish depression.